winter SNL

The cold front has brought with it a sea of calls and texts, ex-boyfriends are coming out of the woodworks at a rate that is both comical and scary. Offer for dates and invitations to hang out have increased at an exponential growth rate lol. All this activity has gotten me thinking, are these people genuine about their advances or are they looking for a "four months steady/part-time/contractual, etc. relationship" as an article posted on the website Nigerians in South Africa (link below) stated? So I decided to write about my experience this winter and that of a very good friend of mine and you be the judge.

Suitor one – varsity ex: I have been in contact with this man for a couple of years but he had cut me out of his life about a year and 2 months ago (he is the one who provided me with this info) because he didn’t approve of the relationship I was in at the time. I have a history with him, we moved on from dating each other and became really great friends. He was at some point a huge part of my life, we would spend hours talking on the phone, he taught me everything I know about Nigerian food and he is the reason I’m obsessed with seeing Lake Malawi. However I had not spoken to or heard from this him until a few days ago when I received a text simply saying "hi". We have been talking and yes there has been mention of him wanting to come over for a "visit". im sceptical

Suitor 2 – friend of a friend: I have known this person for a really long time. He is a friend of a friend if you know wat I mean, we have been rolling in the same circles for a while. At some point we were hanging out (in a group) on a weekly basis. He is fun and enjoys having a good time. I have always been fond of him and found him interesting in that you don’t know how fantastic he is until you spend time with him, he reminds me of the "an onion has many layers" quote. He isn’t what you expect him to be (I like that LOL). A couple of weeks ago my darling gay husband and I went out for drinks and he happened to be at our chosen watering hole with his friends and we exchanged numbers. We have been hanging out. The other day he texts me saying he has a confession and goes on to tell me that he has always had a crush on me. My reaction "hmmmmmm". This case is still pending.

Suitor 3 (isn’t my suitor) – Hot nigerian boy: One of my gays had been going on for the past few days about not being able to track down a very sexy nigerian that he met in 2012. This man had been relentless in chasing him while my friend played hard to get and then the hot nigerian suddenly fell off the grid right before winter. So my gay started cyber stalking him and I as a good friend joined in the search. We tried everything, we even googled searched this man’s street to verify information only to find out that my friend had blocked the hot nigerian on Facebook and only needed to unblock him and send an inbox to get attention. Needless to say they have a date for the 12th and that’s tomorrow lol.

It looks like winter for me will be fun and interesting. I look forward to long cold winter nights snuggled under my duvet with my electric blanket on full blast and my phone fully charged in my hand. Snuggle buddies are so last season get an electric blanket instead LOL. As my gay husband keeps saying “the ex chasing you now will be avoiding you like you’re a debt collector come spring” let’s make wise decisions people. Stay warm

http://www.nigeriansinsouthafrica.com/index.php/2015/06/09/south-africans-want-hot-bodies-for-winter-not-heaters/